I'm highly allergic to all dairy products and almonds so soy milk it is - and I use the Silk Vanilla which is very good. They now also make a Silk Creamer and Silk Chocolate Milk which I might have to try!
They do make Soy Ice Cream and I enjoy it very much whenever I have an Ice Cream craving. Soy Decadence is my personal favorite, it's richer plus they use Evap Cane Juice which I seem to process ok. I also use the Soy Decadence French Vanilla whenever I"m craving an ice cream float (my weakness)
If you're having problems with chocolate, I'm guessing it's the milk products in the chocolate. They do make chocolate chips with soy instead of milk or you could try true bittersweet chocolate which is unsweetened and has no milk products in them.
They also make rice milk which I"ve never tried but could be another alternative for you. As sick as it's making you, and if the Lactaid pills aren't helping, you could have a diary allergy.
Good luck on your search and let us know what the Doc says!
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