Quote Originally Posted by zencentury View Post


How about this-
would you rather regret something you did do or something you didn't do?
That makes my head hurt. I had an initial response but then thought more and wafted and then thought more and went back to my initial. It's early

DH was about as circular as I am. He says the variables are: he knows and doesn't feel the same way, he knows and DOES feel the same way but doesn't know how to initiate it, he's thought about it but doesn't know your feelings (and his are either pro or con), and he has never thought about it.

DH thought it could be brought up a few ways that would allow the relationship to stay intact. One way could be "hey, have you ever thought about..." or the more evil way of setting up a story of "I was talking to <insert name here> and were discussing the perfect traits in a person I'm dating. I kept coming back to you. Have you ever thought of...?" I don't like the second way because I'm bad at making up stories. DH thought the R word (relationship) could be brought up because there is a relationship already.

I think no risk no gain but you have to be prepared for all eventual outcomes. For me, at least, the known is generally better than the unknown.

Good luck though and please keeping posting as to what happens! Re the "accidental" physical contact...I keep thinking of the H.S. days. You know, when the guy yawns and puts his arm around you or the old "I have to roll up the car window" maneuver. Then again, I guess most car windows don't "roll up" anymore