Thanks ya'll!

I think I found my saddle! when I took the other one back I took my old one in, it wasn't that uncomfortable to begin with just after a long ride, well I looked around to find something like mine only wider, wala, the LBS only had a few saddles, but I found a men's Velo that was almost exactly like mine only WIDER, the salesman tried to talk me out of it but know what? it's my butt, I know what I needed, a wider cutout, and guess what? no pain, I rode in my best shorts Friday, I rode yesterday 29 miles in my tri shorts - very thin chamois - and NO pain either time I do notice that my legs rub the saddle some but it has yet to cause any chafing. yesterday I did get some numbness near the end of the ride and I am sure it was due to the tri shorts having almost no padding, I stood up a little now and then and it went right away.

I am excited! I had no shoulder pain at all either. I had to play with moving the saddle forward and back then I moved it one "click" down.

I was going to do a bike fit if this saddle didn't work, they charge $45 for about 39 min and $125 for about 90 min, I am a poor girl so I will do that later, just wanted to get the saddle so I can ride.