Queer-eye for the straight woman

[teigyr]

LoriO, I appreciated your story and I think it's great that you had such a fun time.

It's pretty difficult to offend me and I have noticed that there are times when someone innocently says something and people take it for more than what it is. I realize that in this forum, we have a lot of diversity and there are some people who are more sensitive than others. I know that there can be word ownership (ie one group can say it but it's bad if someone outside says it) too. I also know I accidently offended someone once because of poor sentence structure.

I think people can be "run out". The written word can be harsh and we can't tell inflection or feeling, especially in criticism.

So, LoriO, please stay

[SadieKate]

Being asked to leave implies a choice. Said poster had their ability to post blocked. Matter of fact, there are three.

"Being run-off" - periodically I do feel that this forum has a supply of stones at hand. But that doesn't mean that there aren't remedies.

[BleeckerSt_Girl]

PS Yes, I do remember someone being asked to leave, but that's different from being "run off." Running off makes me picture pitch forks and brooms in hand...

I found a list once that showed 2 or 3 "banned" former posters from a long while back on TE. It happens, and probably was totally justified.

As to being "run off"....well I can only recall a couple of people who would get angry and indignant when anyone disagreed with their statements. They would dramatically announce their departure, sometimes more than once, (Oh! the terrible loss!) and then lurk to see the reaction of course. They loved it when folks pleaded with them to stay. Total drama queens. If someone wants to leave a forum, just leave, without making Grande Announcements with a trumpet fanfare. I do not consider such drama antics to be true examples of being "run off".

TE really is friendlier and more accepting and diverse than any other forum I have ever come across on the internet.

[OakLeaf]

Matter of fact, there are three.

The only one of those I recognize was a 'bot, not a real poster at all. The other two UIDs sure sound like spammers, though I don't know that.

Trolls are another thing, Knotted is right that they're better ignored than banned (especially since they'll only come back with a new UID).

Lori, yours wasn't the post that most of us found offensive. Also, conflict isn't necessarily a bad thing. But if my sarcasm was a little too dry, then I apologize, and I also embrace the apologies of those others who have apologized.

[sundial]

It is a store for plus size woman because I found that is one of the few stores that carry nice shirts and blouses that will fit my shoulders and chest.

I know your pain. Blouses for *the big girls*, broad shoulders, and small(ish) waists are not easy to find. You either have to take it in at the waist or you get used to extra drape of fabric.

On the upside, I did learn that big girls make excellent air bags when you endo.

[Duck on Wheels]

...On the upside, I did learn that big girls make excellent air bags when you endo.

OUUUUCH! THAT's a pain I don't wish to know! It was bad enough when one of my "girls" got hit BY an air bag.

[Trek420]

On the upside, I did learn that big girls make excellent air bags when you endo.

That's nice to know should I get the chance to serve as an airbag for someone I'll just station myself on a corner of the next Tour de C TT. That's one way to get a cool Rock Racing jersey.

And just how did we find this out pray tell?

[Velobambina]

Lori--Hope you'll stick around. I loved your story and it was obvious that the salesperson really made your day and was helpful. These days, that's pretty rare.

We all have different "hot" buttons, I guess. When I read something that hits one of mine, I try to remember that our diversity is what makes life interesting. And we all have goodness inside us and most people don't mean to offend. Even those who try to hurt, there's something wrong inside that person's heart. We all suffer---it's the one thing all of us have in common. If I remind myself of that, it's easier for me to remember that what V says is true: it's not all about ME. Thank goodness for that!

[LoriO]

Sorry if I over reacted last night, I was having a really bad night at work and then when I started reading things here it just made it worse.

Sundial, nice to know there is someone else out there that feels the same pain I do when it comes to shopping for tops. What a pain!

If you even come up to CT I know a great shop with a wonderful salesman that I can send you too!

[teigyr]

I'm 5'11" and am not rail thin. It's next to impossible to find tops that don't expose my midriff!!!

I still think it's so great that he took the time to help you. I know, for me at least, it's difficult to shop because I get into ruts. Sometimes it takes an outsider, especially one with fashion sense, to actually do some good

[sundial]

And just how did we find this out pray tell?

Uh, the hard way.

If you even come up to CT I know a great shop with a wonderful salesman that I can send you too!

LOL! He sounds like fun!

[IFjane]

Lori--Hope you'll stick around. I loved your story and it was obvious that the salesperson really made your day and was helpful. These days, that's pretty rare.

We all have different "hot" buttons, I guess. When I read something that hits one of mine, I try to remember that our diversity is what makes life interesting... If I remind myself of that, it's easier for me to remember that what V says is true: it's not all about ME. Thank goodness for that!

LoriO, please stay! As one who has put her pedal in her mouth more times than I would like to count, I know somewhat how you feel; but also know how wonderful these women are. This is a wonderful, diverse community that I enjoy every day. Some days I lurk, some days I post, some days I wish I had only lurked! But it is all good - again, please stay.

[VeloVT]

LoriO, please stay! As one who has put her pedal in her mouth more times than I would like to count, I know somewhat how you feel; but also know how wonderful these women are. This is a wonderful, diverse community that I enjoy every day. Some days I lurk, some days I post, some days I wish I had only lurked! But it is all good - again, please stay.

Thanks IFJane, I wanted to say this but couldn't find the right words so I canceled out my post. +1!

[Zen]

I don't shop at all anymore, I just wait for Knot's clothing reviews and buy that.

[VeloVT]

Yesterday I got a Colorado Cyclist catalog and was lamenting to my boyfriend how ugly the Castelli 08 pieces are. This made me sad because I am normally a Castelli fan.

http://www.castelli-us.com/ps-949-4-firenze-jersey.aspx
http://www.castelli-us.com/ps-945-4-pois-jersey.aspx
http://www.castelli-us.com/ps-951-4-fever-jersey.aspx
http://www.castelli-us.com/pc-946-1-tatoo-jersey.aspx
etc...

He said, "you CAN'T buy any more cycling clothes!!!!".