Can you relate?

[CorsairMac]

PS: Welcome to the board!! If you get a chance, there's a thread under open titled " getting to know you", gives you a chance to learn about us and...if you're so inclined, tell us a little about you!

[Asphaltgirl]

Wannabe:
I totally understand. I actually prefer riding by myself -- I can set my own pace, stop when I want and not feel like I need to keep up. My DH is a dear, and is so willing to pace his trip to my speed but I do sometimes feel that I'm holding him back. Part of the problem is I ride a small women's specific size bike and have to peddle a LOT more strokes that he does so by the time I'm at the top of the hill, I'm BEAT! We are so blessed with a lovely 11 mile rail trail that runs along side the highway. So I ride as much as I can on the highway and then bail out and do the rail trail and he finishes his ride .....he can go faster and I can recover. We use the cell phones to match a meeting place and ride back to the car together. Remember it's your ride too, enjoy it and have a good time.

~~AG~~
<<trying real hard to keep up with the "big kids">>

[betagirl]

I understand how you feel. I ride with a pretty fast club, and can hang on for about 20 miles, so then I just drop off. I've taken the philosophy that once it becomes un-fun I slow down. I'd rather be dropped and finish on my own or with a couple other slower riders than be in immense pain. I can say however that pushing myself has helped increase my speed. While I still get dropped, I can hang on longer. So it's not all for naught. What did Greg Lemond say about it not getting easier, you just get faster? I have another friend I ride with who's a total hammerhead. We ride together for a while then he gets the itch to take off so I just think "there he goes" and keep going by myself. Happened yesterday during a century ride. I can say he's in a lot worse shape than I am today though

hang in there

[spazzdog]

Hey Wannabe... keep at it and you'll do fine. As a couple of the grrls mentioned, learn about the bike and learn how to fix some of the things that can happen out on a ride (flat, thrown chain, etc).

There's a store called REI that gives bike maintenance classes... I think they are either free or very inexpensive. They start with Beginner maintenance and go on through upper levels. I took the liberty of searching their site for stores in your state... hopefully you are near to one of these:

Niles
8225 W Golf Rd
(Four Flaggs Shopping Center)
Niles, IL 60714
(847) 470-9090

Oakbrook Terrace
17W160 22nd St
Oakbrook Terrace, IL 60181
(630) 574-7700

saddle up grrlfriend! you're gonna do fine

spazzdog

[nuthatch]

There's a store called REI that gives bike maintenance classes... I think they are either free or very inexpensive. They start with Beginner maintenance and go on through upper levels. I took the liberty of searching their site for stores in your state... hopefully you are near to one of these

spazzdog

Wannabee, REI is signing people up right now for a 201 Maintenance class that accepts only five people. It's a one night class on June 14th at the OakBrook Store (don't know about Niles) but they are going to try to go into depth about each part that can be maintained, adjusted or repaired on your bike. You have to actually go to the store to sign up (only $10!). It sounded really good but I had a schedule conflict and couldn't go (drat!!)

P.S. You are always welcome to join Loni0908k and my riding partner and me for a "girls" ride. We're trying to go on Saturdays out west of Elgin/St. Charles area but we also want to hit some of the area trails as well. Let us know if you can come sometime - do you live in the Chicago area?

[roughingit]

My SO is also much faster than me, so I'd go nuts if I rode with him *all* the time. However, I've found that trying to keep up with him has greatly imporved my speed and traffic skills. I am pokey on my own and nervous about traffic, so I'll get stuck waiting 20 minutes for a gap in traffic that is huge enough for my tastes to cross busy streets. I also have a habit of slowing waaaaaay down for corners that desperatly sprinting behind him is helping to combat. Now if I ever get cut off and need to make a sharp turn to keep from getting hit, I am much better equipt for it!

[latelatebloomer]

Hello from another newbie! I've been reading for weeks...

At age 45 and about 220 lbs (used to be about 270), I'm falling in love with riding. I've been training at the gym all winter with a master's class racer who does really great spin classes in the winter months - and I've been lifting weights pretty seriously, too. For the warm weather months, I work on our land, ride, and do weights and yoga when I can work them in ( I also work fulltime teaching brain-injured adults and am an author - my first children's book just came out.) My riding on the road consists of an 8-mile "training loop" as I call it - using that to build strength, speed, and just get comfortable with the bike, shifting smoothly, etc.

I kinda thought there was something wrong with me for preferring to ride alone. Hub & neighbors are always offering to come with me. But if they ride with me, I'm very aware of how slow I am in comparison, and how none of them need to finish a hill on their feet. If I'm by myself - 1 - I'm never last, 2 - I can concentrate on my own focus and body. aiming for them working together. (I didn't even realize I HAD a body 'til I was 40 so I have a lot of catching up to do!)

So all the advice about riding solo and working in companion riders later is great. You are all so fabulous. Thanks for being here!

ps - for all those large women who feel self-conscious on the road - I figured out one day that almost anyone who notices me probably has a large woman in their lives that they love - a mother, sister, friend - and maybe they go home and say "guess what I saw today!"