new bike, training, all sorts of stuff...help!!

[Zen]

Why are you considering replacing the hybrid with a lighter hybrid?
If it's a problem with or fear of riding in the drops check out something along the lines of the Trek Pilot It's an affordable entry level road bike with a more upright position.

Keep the hybrid for around town.

ETA-never mind, I reread your post and saw why you want a different bike. Put in my vote for a cross bike too.