Quote Originally Posted by Brandi View Post
In about 3 weeks we are going to Hawaii on vacation. We have had these plans for a long time now. And have really been looking forward to going. After taking over our company last year and all the headaches and wieght loss from the stress of it all we have really been looking forward to it. But i am now feeling guilty about going. With the events in my sister's life how can I just pick up and go have fun? It is the only vacation I will get before another hectic season in our work begins but....
I can't imagine saying to my sister "Ok we are off for two weeks of fun in hawaii while your little girl is sick". Of coarse I wouldn't say it like that but I feel so bad about it. How am I to handle this? I can't cancel. Mainly cause we are sharing a house with another couple and they would be stuck with the full price of the house. And we are going to celebrate my husbands 50th birthday and our friend who is going with us. He had a stroke this time last year and we are celebrating he's recovery from it.
I am confussed on what to do. Do I just not tell her I am going and say I am working? Lie?
Please any advice.
No confusion here. Don't lie, but GO TO HAWAII! Refer to it as a trip, not a vacation. You're not taking a vacation from caring about your family.

You're available by phone. Your presence can't change things and you're still able to care and encourage from far away.