How do I tell a friend....

[AutumnBreez]

as usual, Irulan is right on the mark, IMO.

If it truly is abuse, get the authorities involved. If it's simply objectionable and poor, the liklihood of your advice being welcome is very low. Either way, there's a good chance the relationship could be ended....so be prepared for that, if you can!

Good luck!

Remember, it's her karma. Not yours.

Live mindfully and peacefully, the light is within you.

Namaste,
~T~

I do think it is frustration and ill parenting (obnoxious parenting-as Irulan put it- good choice of wording-or reckless) not abuse.
I also believe that my best option here is to try to silently present it to this young overly frustrated mother that there are some other methods to try (that may help reduce the behaviors that they both display), and continue my silent behavior modification during their visits to my house. The child responded well while her mom was away, mom even noticed something different about her daughter in past two days that she likes, she mentioned to me. Think that something may be done without appearing to be intrussive. If it does not work, then I will decide if I want to further the friendship, but I will know I did my best.