Quote Originally Posted by Irulan

And you are right, he doesn't have to be a victim, but that is some learned... survival is a learned skill.

The teachers that meant the most to me during my troubled youth were the ones that gave me a safe place without asking a lot of questions.
Thanks for the input. My mother had a physically abusive live in boyfriend from the time I was nine until I went away to college. For me it was the opposite. The teachers I remember are the ones who pushed me to be better, who realized I had potential. We all bring our own experiences to the table. I want him to see the way out, to survive. But maybe he's not ready for that.


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