V.
I'm sorry that you found yourself at the short end of the system. Unfortunately, the Ca education system (administration, at least) seems more concerned about self-esteem than actual education and success of the students. This must be difficult for you. I think you did the right thing. This student needs to know that someone cares for his future. That someone is you. Sounds like you are really trying to connect.

Is his missing school a symptom of something more serious? Maybe I'm overreacting because of my education (I'm a student nurse who just finished Psych), but this sounds like it may be more serious that just missing school. Maybe the school social worker could do a home visit to talk to the family. Maybe to you could have a parent-teacher conference.

Most importantly, is to care for yourself. Remember that while you try to help this one, you have 29 others to teach as well.

Good luck
Mikki