Lisa, that sounds just like something I could have written about my eldest brother, but my mom is still alive. Remember your anger and resentment just damages you, not him. You could do like I did. I wrote all my diatribes and rants and accusations and vents out on a blog and posted it for all the world to see, using his real name. I never publicized it, and search terms don't find it, so I doubt it has ever been read by anyone at all. Every once in a while, when I am guilted by my mom or somehow drawn back into his world, I go out and reread and post, and remind myself why I am severing all possible ties.

I feel for you, because it's hard to "walk the fine line between self-respect and self-abuse" just for your parent's sake.

Be true.

Karen