not coming to a child's birthday party

[mtbdarby]

SK - in the old days parents picked up their kids In this day and age most parents work until 5pm so kids are bussed to daycare, have grandparents pick them up, etc. Thus my dilemna - how to contact the parents when you don't know who they are??

One child he knows from preK I know the parents last name and the moms first name. I was gonna call her this weekend but HER name isn't in the phone book and I don't know her husbands name. And no adays parents don't necessarily have the same last name....ugh.

Are their school policies that prohibit teachers from giving out parent info for classes?

[SadieKate]

Ask the teacher. Surely s/he knows who/when the child is picked up. Be there when they do. Or ask the teacher if s/he would give the parents (or grandparents) a note with your contact info. Does the school have a parents' day or open house? Ask for parent volunteers when you could be there when the child is picked up? I can't believe it would be that hard.

[lph]

Well whaddyaknow. This case has actually got a follow-up. My son just told me that there will be a small birthday celebration at school for the boy in question, arranged by the teacher.

While I know this could open a whole can of worms when it comes to why him, why not everybody else, who next... in this particular case I am glad she is doing this. I sent her a short note saying so, and she replied telling me that this boy had been telling her about his upcoming birthday party for weeks and she was just crushed when she heard what happened. So I'm just really happy the class has a teacher who cares so much about her students.

I think it'll be ok actually, I think everybody realizes and accepts that this boy really is a bit different from all the others. He's not DISliked, just not very popular. He's friendly and outgoing, but acts very young for his age and lacks social antennae, and he may well have a diagnosis.

At our school we've always been given a contact list with everybody's adresses and phone numbers early each school year. Very handy!

[kelownagirl]

Are their school policies that prohibit teachers from giving out parent info for classes?

I send a note home letting parents know I will be sending out a class phone list and have them confirm that I can put their name on the list. I figure that covers me.

[maillotpois]

SK - in the old days parents picked up their kids In this day and age most parents work until 5pm so kids are bussed to daycare, have grandparents pick them up, etc. Thus my dilemna - how to contact the parents when you don't know who they are??

One child he knows from preK I know the parents last name and the moms first name. I was gonna call her this weekend but HER name isn't in the phone book and I don't know her husbands name. And no adays parents don't necessarily have the same last name....ugh.

Are their school policies that prohibit teachers from giving out parent info for classes?

Our school district publishes a directory with name/address/phone info for all kids k-8 in all elementary schools and middle school. Is that unusual? (You can be omitted if you like, of course).

[Veronica]

Yep, that's unusual. We have too much movement in our school to do something like that. Heck... we have parents give us emergency phone numbers that have been disconnected.

V.

[alpinerabbit]

Meh. I was not invited to any birthay parties in primary school. I guess was the outcast. In fact I kind of did not even notice there might have been any at all, so I did not mind.

I minded the other bothering that happened..... but hey, I now probably have the better career and happier private live than most of them so screw all of those who tortured me.