Exactly, OakLeaf, I think the problem is not so much that people are engaging in behavior that they know is dangerous as it is that we all over-estimate our abilities to do more than one thing well at a time. Like I said, the majority of drivers on cellphones that fail to yield to me on my bike don't even seem to *notice* that I'm there. So I think it's easy to be oblivious to the danger until you actually hurt someone or cause an accident.

A lot of people will tell you that they are absolutely ok to drive safely after a drink or two too.

CA in NC, your employer sounds like a few I have encountered. I worked in the tech industry over the boom years when the rage was to bring in food, games, even beer (!) too keep people at work. It seemed like a nice bonus until you realized that the point was to chain you to your desk. It just isn't worth it. A bigger paycheck is rarely so much bigger as to compensate for lost time, enjoying your family and the like. I hope everything works out well for you, and mostly that you soon find an employer that is closer and knows that a balanced life leads to a happier and more productive employee.

Anne