the joys of family dynamics

[Triskeliongirl]

I doubt that I'd be able to follow my own advice, but if you wanted to you COULD, if you're usually fairly close to him, send him a an e-mail or something saying "Hi - congratulations with the star! To be completely honest I'm a bit sad you didn't invite me because I would have liked to be there, but I'm happy for you anyway and hope you had a nice day." Or something like that.

I really like this advice. Maybe he just thought you wouldn't be interested, or it would hurt your feelings to flaunt this in your face. It does sound like just finding out did indeed at list rile up some feelings of sibling rivalry, so maybe he just didn't want to cause you any pain. So, a congratualtions, and letting him know you would have liked to be there would make sure this doesn't happen again (assuming that is how you really feel!). I also like Veronica's advice. Your brother's success has nothing to do with any unhappiness you may feel about your own career choices or life. Could further education or training change your present situation for the better? Instead of chocolate cake, why not focus that energy on what you can do to enjoy your own life more?

[mimitabby]

Dang! remember; you can pick your friends, but not your family. I would be just as upset and irritated as you are.. But do congratulate your bro. Even if he doesn't deserve it.