Hobby recomendations

[Tuckervill]

Geocaching sounds like a great idea, because if Mississippi is like Arkansas, a lot of the significant points have not been accessed. (I think I saw a thing once where people were marking the places where longitude and latitude intersected or something like that.) There is one of those near us, but someone already marked it or whatever they do. (I don't geocache but I know someone who does, and I've read about it.)

There are people who simply try to visit every single county in America. You can do that on a smaller scale. I like to do that around here, when I get bored I drive to the small towns near me and see what life is like there (it's usually not that different than my house, but if I go in a flea market or something, I might find something I didn't know I was looking for).

Those kinds of traveling things, like Volksmarch and geocaching really appeal to me for some reason. It kind of ties in with my weather watching and my love of geography. That might not turn other people on, though.

Karen

[Flybye]

If he likes woodworking, that's where I would start. Men feel more intimate with their spouses when they do activities together. I think that it is funny that my husband and his buddies never get together to just hang out and talk like I do with my girlfriends. They do something centered around an activity. I would take it as a great compliment that he is seeking to do something with you - he wants more of your time.

My concern for him is actually his depression. I am a social worker, so that's where my heart lies.

Here's my idea for you to mull over. If he is down in the dumps, could you find some woodworking project that you can do with him that will benefit other people? Christmas is coming. Perhaps wooden trains or other toy projects for needy families? Maybe build shelving for non profit agencies?

The reason that I suggest this is that if he is depressed, giving to other people gives the giver a huge sense of self worth. So often what we do for other people ends up being more for us than anything else. I don't know whether or not he works, but if he doesn't - that's just plain out and out hard on a man. There self worth is tied so much to providing. This would give him an outlet to fill that need to provide. He'd have the deadlines, and feel needed by others. It also would have the benefit of getting him out of the house. He'd also be getting a little physical activity.

If your projects are smaller, like toys, there is a good chance that you can get all of the wood that you need for free from the leftovers at home construction sites. That way you'd not be heading to the poor house

I wish you the best in whatever it is that you find to do together. Oh, and as for the bossiness - sorry My hope would be that after awhile of being together on a project, that need to boss you around would diminish.



It also would have the benefit of getting him out of the house.