LBTC,

I too am very sensitive to things like this, and find myself obsessing for days and ultimately making it worse! 9 times out of 10 the other person has NO CLUE that what they said affected me so.

Who knows what she meant - could be something to the effect of, "Now that you know how hard it is to regain fitness after an illness, perhaps if you hit an emotional slump later on down the road and contemplate taking time off from training, you'll remember this and it will motivate you to maintain the fitness levels you've worked so hard to achieve!" Not blaming you for being ill and HAVING to be off the bike for so long . . . just saying it probably taught you a lesson about how easy it is to lose fitness (and how hard it is to get going again) when off the bike for so long.

You certainly did the right thing taking it easy during your illness! Keep taking care of YOU. This may mean speaking with your friend about the situtation, or deciding to let it go. Big hugs to you.