Well I can relate to several women here - the long-marrieds and the newly-weds.

I thought Mimi's post was bang on - that was me for the first marriage and the hard part was staying on the same page as the years passed. We didn't - and as I got older I realized how thoroughly different we really were. Eventually the marriage ended.

Now I've been with my new husband for 3 years and married for 6 months. We have a completely different relationship than the first husband. DH and I spend all of our time together, and quite honestly, we like it that way. We are both the kind of people that enjoy spending time together and we have really similar interests. I'm sure other people would find it oppressive but we don't. We work at the same school although that really only means we drive to and from work together in the morning, and we have lunch together most days. It also means we can talk about work and actually care about and understand the other person's point of view. We have similar interests and both love riding so that's just another thing we do together. We also try to find time to go out for dinner once a week, and to go for a "honeymoon" once per school term.

I really don't think it matters whether you like to spend lots of time together, or whether you need your own space. What matters is that you and he have similar feelings about it. If those time "needs" aren't in sync, then one person is more likely to feel "left out" or lonely.