How do I sit on my sit bones????

[sundial]

Ghoundz, try tilting your saddle nose up just a wee bit. That should help you to sit back on the saddle more. You might want to consider rotating the handlebar so that the hoods are closer to you or to consider a different stem that brings the handlebars up just a tad.

[Kalidurga]

I had that problem with a handful of saddles. I used to try raising the nose of my saddle, but it only made things worse. I finally got fed up with it and went for a real, honest-to-goodness fitting. The fitter and I determined that raising my bar with a steerer tube extender totally took care of the problem. It helped to re-balance my weight between the bars, saddle, and pedals. Now, even when I lean down in the drops, I'm perched on my sitbones and there's not as much weight balanced on the pubic area.

I don't know if that's the solution for you. A professional fitting might be the best way to find out exactly what you need, if you're able to have one.