Advice with Teenage Daughters & Piercings

[KnottedYet]

Enquiring minds want to know....

[silver]

Young Lady (arms akimbo in my most motherly - stern voice), do you have something you'd like to tell me????? **tapping my foot***

"NO!!!" **slams door**

[Lise]

I'll chime in with the earlier comment about pregnancy.

I'm a midwife, in practice for 14 years. Over the past 8 years or so, I've seen lots of pregnant bellies with a scar like this: ( then the belly button, and another scar, like this: ) The scars are sometimes an inch apart. I'm not sure, cuz I don't ask, at what point the women had to take out the piercing. But it's clearly much bigger than when they started!

I'm in the "better a piercing than a tatoo" camp. My right ear has three holes in it, from back in the 80s (only one hole in the left ear). Now I wish I didn't have those two extra holes, but they're not all that noticeable. I definitely don't want art on my body that I can't change! But that's me...

Keep us posted!

[KnottedYet]

Lise - even a *bike* tattoo?

(I'm thinking about a chain-ring tat on my right calf. I get chain ring marks all the time anyway, might as well make it permanent!)

Ewwww, stretched out belly-button piercings! Not something I ever really thought about. (now, saggy nipple piercings I've considered. Perhaps there is a lower age limit to navel piercings, and an upper age limit to nipple piercings... not that I've ever thought of getting either, oh no, not me, uh-nuh. )

[Lise]

Lise - even a *bike* tattoo?

Yeah, babe, even a bike tatoo! I am too changeable!

Plus which, I routinely give myself my own chain ring tatoos! Also tire print tatoos--I rode the Bianchi yesterday , and had a total blank spot in which I unclipped right and leaned left. I managed to unclip left in a hurry, but somehow got grease and tire prints all over both calves! (Sorry for the brief thread hijack, SilverFamily)

[Dianyla]

Not something I ever really thought about. (now, saggy nipple piercings I've considered.

But then you've got some handy hardware to attach a support to... just run a line from boob to boob around the back of your neck like a halter top.


I swear I'm not stalking your posts tonight.

[Lise]

I've also seen some pretty funky looking stretched-out navel tatoos. I see fewer of those these days, and a lot more stretched out piercing scars. Hmmm, what will be the next fascinating fashion trend that gets all distorted when you get preggers?!?

[Tuckervill]

My son's long-time girlfriend had plugs in her ear lobes, stretching them out. Not very big. When she brought it up in convo one day, it occurred to me to say that those holes would be handy for turning her over in bed when she's in the nursing home.

She wears normal earrings, now. I can't claim that the image is what made her change, but I'm so glad she did.

Karen

[hellbells123]

hi there..a few years ago i had a few piercings ie ears ,nose ,naval and tongue ..then i kinda grew up a little and now i dont have any..nor do i have any visible scarring ..i honestly think this is phase that will pass and possibly the best way to deal with it is go with her and make sure it all goes safely .

accepting it may just help the phase pass quicker
helen

[mtbdarby]

"NO!!!" **slams door**

**trying not to grin** The next time you slam a door on me young lady, I will remove the hinges AND the door (I can't wait to use this on my son - and I will take the door off...)

Or my new strategy, if you tell us what you were doing there, Knot will share one of her secrets Bwaaaa

[Mr. Bloom]

I will remove the hinges AND the door (I can't wait to use this on my son - and I will take the door off...)

One time I did this to SilverDaughter...she was grounded to her room, no phone, no Computer, NO DOOR. Taking the door off the hinges was the best punishment I could do!

I'm taking SilverDaughter for her new piercing tonight

[rachelroo]

well here is my story. My parents wouldn't let me get my ears peirced till I was 18 so one summer in the Bahamas I got my cartilage pierced at age 15 (you don't need consent there) I got my Belly peirced at 18 and I got a tattoo. I regreted the tat soon after getting it, and took the peircing out a year later. Now 5 years later the belly piercing still hasn't scarred or closed up. I can still put things through it, allthough I've only tried once recently. I know this all doesn't have a point but for some reason I just had to post.

[Zen]

But then you've got some handy hardware to attach a support to... just run a line from boob to boob around the back of your neck like a halter top.

[Hammer]

I haven't read the whole thread yet. I'm 28 years old and just got my navel pierced when I was 25. I guess I'm not entirely sure why I did it. I think that I was going through a quarter life crisis. I saw some jewelry that I liked, so I decided that it wasn't as permanent as a tattoo and would be fun. I don't show it off nearly as much as I did a few years ago. I liked wearing shirts that showed the midriff a little bit, but mostly it was just fun to know that I had one. By the time that I start having kids in a year or so, I'll probably be okay with taking it out and letting it do whatever it is that it wants to do. It did get a little infected at first, but if a person keeps it clean, it heals alright.

I've considered tattoos off and on since I was 18, I still don't have one. My dad then said that he didn't know how he felt about it because technically he thought that it was important to show your body respect and treat it as a temple (From a Christian stand point...) . Though he did say that if I really felt as though I NEEDED one, then as long as I did it tastefully, he'd support it. I decided that I needed to design one myself, in order to be unique. I only just within the last few years figured out what I would get, if I did get one. I don't think it'll happen though.

16 is still pretty young though. I *think* that I read that piercings aren't always a good idea at a young age because your body is still developing. I'm not sure how much it would matter with a navel piercing.

It seems like everyone is providing ways to educate her and keep her from making a rash descision to allow her to decide for herself how important it is. That's great. Though I think that I would tell my daughter (if I had one) that I wouldn't give my permission for any piercings further south than that.

Still, 17 is young enough to have the slim and trim youthful body and she'll have lots of years to enjoy the piercing then too!

[indigoiis]

You lead her to the basement door. You say, Sweetie, you still want that naval pierced? You say, come on down the basement for a minute. Take her down to your workshop, pick up the biggest, rustiest nail you can find and a big hammer. Then say, "sit right down..."

It worked for me with my ears... I waited a whole nuther year after my Dad scared me like that.

My gut reaction? Say no. Tell her in two more years she'll be eighteen and can then have it done.