JanB,

I'm so sorry to hear about your husband - this must be really tough on you.

I don't know if this can possibly help, but I have a story that may give you a little encouragement.

About 14 years ago, my Dad retired from farming, and my parents moved up to the UP, about 100 miles from here. I have a friend there who is a nurse, and Mom talked to her about who the best doctor would be in the area. Well, the doctor wouldn't take them on as new patients unless they came in for checkups. Dad hadn't been to a doctor in years, had never really been sick, and was angry over being forced to go (thought it was all about the doctor making $$ off them). Well, they caught his prostate cancer because of it. He had the surgery, and today he is 71, still skis (and races), mountain bikes (and does a couple of races a year), and is shopping for a Trek Pilot right now.

So, as worried as you probably are right now, don't despair.

We're all pulling for you - hang in there!