Gel saddles and I just don't mix apparently. I went through trying out about a dozen over the last year. I ended up getting a women's Selle San Marco 155 width and I love it. Has flex but not massively. Has a cutout which I needed. Thins out real nice where I used to always get rub on my inner thigh. No more. I wear thinner tri shorts with it and it doesn't bother me at all. I actually prefer the thinner chamois now that I have this saddle. FWIW, I also got a zero offset seatpost which put me at the right distance from the pedals and handlebars (short femurs) so now I'm sitting back on my sit bones instead of on my girly bits. Good luck.