K... so if he wants to see the benefits, like MD suggests take the angle of "happy healthy wife"... but take that a step further...
With the benefits of moving and strengthening muscles, she will be healthier, happier, more comfortable...
If she is feeling better;
- she will be sunnier around the house which will make the atmosphere more pleasant for him
- he will not have to listen to her "yelp" from another room if she moves too quickly and hurts herself (my ma-in-law does this often - she has her hip replaced next week) ... no "yelps" due to sudden pain means his fave TV show, or the book he is reading, will not be interrupted
- if she is doing him a favour like fetching a cuppa/beer/whatever for him when is is engrossed in something, she will be quicker and quieter fetching it
- if they garden, she will be able to do more in the garden which will help him meet any of his own deadlines
- does he like to dance? if so, maybe they can do it again, or do it more easily/often because she will feel better (even if its just a waltz around the kitchen table)
Maybe if you can turn her increased mobility and comfort into real benefits for him, he will "let" her go...
I also agree about making a mother/daughter day... but will he still get some of your time too? Maybe he's a tad jealous that you want to spend time with ma, but not with pa?




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