Weird question: Has anyone here ever...

[PinkBike]

just found this thread. i've been mistaken for a boy all my life - like someone else said, i must just have a butch presence. i hate it, and i'm very sensitive about it. i do not have a feminine face nor am i curvaceous at all. and i have a deep voice (i have never NOT been called sir on the phone).

i've grown my hair way long, and that seems to be the cure for me. i would cut it way short if i could, at age 52 it seems to be, i dunno, like pretentious or something. but i fear the "sir" response so i keep it long.

my husband tells me almost daily how beautiful i am, i don't believe him. but i do believe that HE thinks so. i wish i could just be happy that he thinks so, but i've been hurt so many times by cruel people who don't even know me.

now i've gained weight post-menopause, and i'm feeling low because i have lost my one last great pride - my well defined legs and abs. and with the weight gain i got a bonus - a drop in fitness.

so i think i will start a diet/exercise program right away (besides the 100 miles i ride a week).

anyone got any suggestions for post-menopause diet?

[Mr. Bloom]

my husband tells me almost daily how beautiful i am, i don't believe him. but i do believe that HE thinks so. i wish i could just be happy that he thinks so, but i've been hurt so many times by cruel people who don't even know me.

A husband considers the whole person Others don't.

I am absolutely sure that your husband is 100% right so forget what the unimportant 'other folks' think. Please accept his affirmation offered in love.

[nafula]

I'm 6'2" and get called Sir all the time. Usually when I'm wearing a baseball cap.

It happened one time when I was walking to the counter to buy a Coke. The guy at the register called me sir before he realized I was woman. He felt so bad about it he gave me the Coke for free.

So its not always a bad thing to be mistaken for a guy.

[mimitabby]

my husband tells me almost daily how beautiful i am, i don't believe him. but i do believe that HE thinks so. i wish i could just be happy that he thinks so, but i've been hurt so many times by cruel people who don't even know me.

now i've gained weight post-menopause, and i'm feeling low because i have lost my one last great pride - my well defined legs and abs. and with the weight gain i got a bonus - a drop in fitness.

so i think i will start a diet/exercise program right away (besides the 100 miles i ride a week).

anyone got any suggestions for post-menopause diet?

Pink bike you look feminine in your teensy avatar photo.. I clicked on the link and if that's you in the trek jersey; i can see you have chiselled features, but they are nice features. I suggest you forget the cruel people who are clueless, and take a good look in the mirror before you get too old to see your lovely features.

One of the most stunning things for me over the years has been to go back and look at pictures of me that are 20 or 30 years old. WHY didn't I think i looked nice then????

and the bottom line that you probably already know; don't be too attached to your looks because they're going to change... for the worse... if you live long enough. what's important is how you take care of your health and your soul.. (not religious here; but it's true)

[caligal]

I was mistaken for a boy when I was young. Had the bowl haircut in the 70's like most kids. Although I was out to dinner with my brother, his wife and my mom and my bro has long hair, the server walked up to the table with his my brother's back to him and asked how are you ladies doing tonight. The server was horrified, but we thought it was pretty funny.

[PinkBike]

thanks mimi. by the way i think i met raleighdon last year at one of the rides on the west side. being new to the forum i didnt realize i was in the presence of a legend!

[iFKA]

just found this thread.

same here...

I have long hair and I look very feminine now, but when my hair was short many people thought I was a boy. Once I went to a picnic and I wore my track suit... What happened is one of the funniest things that year. I came into a public toilet and one elderly woman start shouting at me how this is a womens section , aren't I'm ashamed and so on ,and so on When she finally finished I told her I'm a girl and she became so ashamed, her face turned red like a lobster. I thought I'd just die laughing.

I look younger than I am, it runs in the family. So now I'm 24, with make up I look like I'm 19, and without it like I'm 16. I'm thinking off cutting my hair short again, there's no doubt I'll be mistaken for a boy again.

I'm sending my picture (sorry, don't have with short hair in digital form) just for you to see how I don't look like a boy, but there are many elderly people who think you can't be a woman if you're having a short hair, so I wouldn't be upset if they again say I'm a boy.
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[Voodoo Sally]

I'm tall and with really short hair. I've always preferred short hair. But yes, I have been mistaken for a man many times in my life, usually at a sideways glance or not a close look. But as time goes by, I care less and less about that. Just this past weekend, I was doing a mt. bike race, and a few times a passing rider or one I was overtaking said something like, "nice going, buddy," or "keep it up, man," or "on your left, dude." It's kind of funny, to feel like for a minute that I was an impostor, sneaking in on the "world of men", and seeing how they talk to one another.

[abvnx]

once while i was in a public pool/community rec place sort of thing. i was heading to the ladies washroom. the guy at the desk tried to stop me saying "young man!" i had no idea he was talking to me. my sister told him "um, thats a girl" i think i was about 10-12. that sort of thing happened a lot.
i insisted on short hair cuz it was easy to take care of. didnt ware earrings until i was over 18. and hated dresses. and im fairly flat chested.

i had major self esteem issues growing up. my mom used to make fun of me for having a flat chest and fat thighs and butt. lots of times getting mistaken for a boy. now i have longish hair and it dosnt happen. i do get "shouldnt you be in school?" i like hearing that now last week a busdriver thought i was under 18. i almost wanted to hug him!