just found this thread. i've been mistaken for a boy all my life - like someone else said, i must just have a butch presence. i hate it, and i'm very sensitive about it. i do not have a feminine face nor am i curvaceous at all. and i have a deep voice (i have never NOT been called sir on the phone).

i've grown my hair way long, and that seems to be the cure for me. i would cut it way short if i could, at age 52 it seems to be, i dunno, like pretentious or something. but i fear the "sir" response so i keep it long.

my husband tells me almost daily how beautiful i am, i don't believe him. but i do believe that HE thinks so. i wish i could just be happy that he thinks so, but i've been hurt so many times by cruel people who don't even know me.

now i've gained weight post-menopause, and i'm feeling low because i have lost my one last great pride - my well defined legs and abs. and with the weight gain i got a bonus - a drop in fitness.

so i think i will start a diet/exercise program right away (besides the 100 miles i ride a week).

anyone got any suggestions for post-menopause diet?