My mother (86) has a living will with DNR, and I am her med power of attorney. She and my Dad had the whole package done several years ago so everything would be taken care of if they ever got sick.

I agree with Aquila -- why did the doctor come to YOU with this? Did he discuss it directly with Mr. S's father first? I would suggest a quick call to the doctor and ask him to break the ice with Dad. If he's like my mother, things like this are better heard from a doctor. (Older people tend to look at doctors as one step away from Gods, and will listen to what they say -- I know this from experience!)

Don't be upset that Silver brought it up, Mr. S. Not only are we all anonymous, but this is what women do -- we help each other through stuff.