You say you started on a hybrid and then went to a road bike and started having this problem.
Road bikes put more weight on the front parts of your private areas, while hybrids have you sitting more upright with your weight more back on your sitbones.
Lots of women have more "saddle" pain when they switch to road bikes and a more forward/down racing posture.
Is there any way your LBS can install spacers in your stem to raise your handlebars up a cm or two? Might be worth checking out.
Also, contrary to what seems logical, sometimes a thinner chamois will put less pressure on your front bits where the saddle nose is.