My sweetie and I ride on the same saddle (well, we have one each!): Selle Italia SLR Gel Flow. Very little padding. We both like it.

I tried only one women-specific saddle and it didn't do it for me... I think it should be a you-specific saddle, that's all.

To be totally honest with you, I think I could be "more comfortable", but I have no pain, and no discomfort, especially compared to many other saddles I have tried. Going back in the saddle market terrifies me, so I have settled. Maybe there is one that would be better out there, but I'm not going to go through this again. Sure my bottom is sore after four hours in the saddle. But it's also sore after four hours on my office chair.

If your saddle is fine, you might want to keep it for a while. You might want to have your butt measured (lots of info on this in the Saddles thread), and sit on other people's saddles to give yourself an idea.

Good luck!!