Cycling and your relationship.

[KnottedYet]

It was our passion for bikes and cycling that got me and my sweetie to meet. Otherwise, I'm sure we'd never have met.

[Trek420]

Yep I'm sure there are tons of examples of great couples where one rides, the other doesn't.

In fact one of my favorite examples is right here on TE. AG cycles, hubby rides motorcycles and check out how they combine the two

http://forums.teamestrogen.com/showt...arrived+flames


But back in the day when I was dating I found it difficult not to have an active lifestyle in common.

Lots of comments like "You do what? You ride how far? You're doing what next weekend?" and the classic "You spend that much on what? ".

One gal said "You have to have a screw loose to ride that far"

There was no second date or u-haul

It's sooooo nice to have this in common as well as other things of course, like love of wool and chocolate.

[teigyr]

But back in the day when I was dating I found it difficult not to have an active lifestyle in common.

Lots of comments like "You do what? You ride how far? You're doing what next weekend?" and the classic "You spend that much on what? ".

That's exactly it. I never expected anyone to do my activities as much as I was doing them but I did want someone who could keep up with me in general. DH did take up cycling but before that he hiked and kayaked so he was in decent shape. Imagine being active and being with someone who gets winded going for a walk?!

[KnottedYet]

But back in the day when I was dating I found it difficult not to have an active lifestyle in common.

Lots of comments like "You do what? You ride how far? You're doing what next weekend?" and the classic "You spend that much on what? ".

And then you meet some nutcase who not only knows what ALC is, knows what the AIDS rides BEFORE that were, and wishes she could've done them.
AND who eggs your cute lil' heine on to buy yet *another* bike! And who used to own the same bike you did. (Trek 420)

Scary.

I'd run away if I were you...

[Trek420]

I'd run away if I were you...

Isn't that a line in the Wizard of Oz?? Nah, not runin'. You know my knees are shot I can't run

I have a theory that we're different somehow, we few we happy few who like endurance sports

I've never been sure how to explain it, maybe it's genetic.

But there's something about we like things that are painfull to others (and not in a kinky way ).

Climbing's hard and I'll have to get off and walk but I like it and feel good after. Not just the endorfin rush, the view or the downhill run or recovery meal.

I know it's making me stronger, and of course there's food after I can veg and watch TV or TE, but only if I got an hour of excersise or more that day. Otherwise stand back.

So when we have this in common with our SO it's nice. Doesn't whether we ride together, wait for the other at the top or one is at home making the recovery meal, hats off to our them and to single TE'ers future SO's.

My totally unfounded theory is when you have that in your DNA so to speak it makes processes like Bikeomoma's DH journey back to fitness easier and maybe even dealing with injuries, illness. He's felt this before, likes feeling fit and working out. Hopefully it'll be like old home week "oh, yeah, I like that".

Sure it'll take a while but he knows the route.

All my family all do something active. There may be something to this but I don't care, just like cycling.

[BikeMomma]

My totally unfounded theory is when you have that in your DNA so to speak it makes processes like Bikeomoma's DH journey back to fitness easier and maybe even dealing with injuries, illness. He's felt this before, likes feeling fit and working out. Hopefully it'll be like old home week "oh, yeah, I like that".

Sure it'll take a while but he knows the route.

That's what I'm hoping...and I hesitantly raise crossed fingers and say it might be true. Thanks, Trek.

BikeMomma, I just wanted to say that I thought your post was very well-written and I wish you and your husband the best of luck with his journey back to health... has he expressed any interest in cycling?

Thanks Kimmy, for the compliment...great name, btw.

We got him a mtb a couple years ago and I put slicks on it so that he could ride it on the streets. He's been on it maybe all of ten times. But, he has said lately that he may start using it in conjunction with the Bowflex as cardio (yay!). Actually, I think he's waiting on me! I have to change out the tube on the back tire (valve broke off). Guess I'm his wrench in addition to his wench!

~BikeMomma

[RoadRaven]

Well... its augmented ours...

We both enjoy it, and I've done it more and more as he and the boys got into it.

We don't ride much together because of our different levels and my work hours... but I relish the times we can... and its great talking cycling with him too.

[newbiechick]

I started cycling when I met my now-husband three years ago. He's an avid cyclist and I thought it might be something fun to do together. He said from the get-go that he did not expect me to ride and that if I didn't like it I should let it go. Fortunately, I really enjoyed it from the start.

I'm very fortunate in that my husband loves to ride with me, even tho' his abilities are FAR above mine. He says he's just happy to be on the bike. He's been a wonderful teacher and a great inspiration. He and I ride together once or twice a week, and I send him off to ride on his own once or twice a week--so he still gets in his hard, fast, challening rides.

We're doing a 4-day bike tour in the San Juan Islands (WA) in a week and a half. He's done several of these organized tours including some pretty tough ones; but he's happy to do this "easy" tour and enjoy it with me.