It sounds like we are in the same sort of situation as far as "me" time. My husband works long hours running a family business. I am extremely fortuante to be able to stay home but it doesn't leave much time for any extra non-kid activities. I have ridden early in the AM but that is going to take some getting used to!!! Its hard to get your blood flowing at 5:30am when you haven't had a full night sleep.
I am so looking forward to the days when they are both going to be in school at the same time for even a short three hours. (I can crank out some miles in that time!!!) I know they grow fast and to enjoy every moment but for me to be able to enjoy every moment I have to enjoy being myself too.
Good luck to you and hope you find someone or a club to ride with. -Nic