
Originally Posted by
jobob
That's precisely why I avoid these discussions. Sure, it's an ego boost to some, but it can be very discouraging to others.
Having just read through that awful thread from last fall, I understand that average speed discussions can get ugly, especially when someone makes a horribly harsh and unfair comment about riders at a certain pace being slow. That comment was certainly neither helpful nor kind. However, the OP in this thread asked about getting faster, which in my mind, is a legitimate goal in cycling and one that warrants a discussion. Although average speeds have factored into the discussion, both I and others have repeatedly emphasized that comparing respective averages is less than helpful on a number of levels. The tone of the discussion has otherwise been, in my opinion, encouraging, helpful and positive. Not that you're pointing fingers, but I certainly didn't share my own experiences to get an ego boost.
The fact is that whether we're discussing average speeds, a race or ride report or climbing feet tallies, there's always a risk that someone will inadvertently end up feeling discouraged because they perceive that they don't measure up. While certain discussions more than others inherently invite such less-than-helpful comparisons, it's ultimately up to each of us to choose our inner cheerleader over our inner critic and to look to those we perceive as "better" in some way as a source of inspiration rather than a source of shame.
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