Goodbye, my Kallie Kat

[Lise]

Oh, yes, this pain will ease. There will still be moments when you're brought to sudden tears, but it will ease, and you'll be filled with grateful, loving memories of your baby. My boyfriend gave me a shirt of his to roll up and sleep with in my arms, as Isaac used to sleep with me that way. Hold on, ride this wave of grief, and it will pass. love, Lise

[Starfish]

It does get easier.

It is also my personal experience that whenever I am going through a time of grief, if I have areas of other types of grief or pain in my life that I have not dealt with or acknowledged, that the "current" grief will be deeper and last longer.

Just my own experience over the past few years and a number of losses.

Give yourself a lot of grace, and get whatever support you need. I have found support for my grieving processes in groups, with a counselor, and with friends. It gets better. Give yourself plenty of time.

[LBTC]

Yes, Han, it does get better

Don't be hard on yourself, don't try to be macho. Cry when the tears come. Honour your feelings, and thereby honour Billie's memory. Over time, you feel the same, but the tears will melt away and you'll feel that heart-expanding love and gratitude for having had Billie in your life, and having her spirit around you always.

Hugs and peaceful, grateful butterflies,
~T~