as I read more and more of this thread I am COMPLETELY amazed at the male-female issues everyone is sharing ... who would have thought that riding a bike with other cyclists, no matter what the gender, could be such an issue!!

It is bike riding ... an aerobic exercise that takes some or most, if not all of an individual's energy to preform -- who's got time for anything else?!!

OK, maybe the issue is NOT WHEN riding, but forming a relationship WHILE riding -- I get that. If fact, I have one riding buddy who has made it clear he would like more than "just riding buddies" and I know his wife and kids!! Needless to say, I nipped that in the bud quickly and told other riders in our core group about his intentions -- they too took him aside to discuss his issues. YES, they are his issues and not mine. Have I told my DH -- NO, because I don't need DH to "create" issues with male riders that aren't there. Most riders ARE MALE and most riders JUST WANT TO RIDE.

Male or female, we all have one thing in common -- the bicycle. Personally, I don't see how gender needs to effect the love of the sport. If you ride well with someone, enjoy their company while riding, and the whole experience promotes the love of the bike, why not ride with them? Of course, if there is "outside bike chemistry or misguided thinking" than that needs to be dealt with immediately -- go with it, ignore it, or deal with it. As women working hard to improve our bodies and mind through cycling, it is important to stand-up to those who interfere with the passion of cycling; it is important to be empowered, standing strong for ourselves and what we need and want from cycling. I hope no woman allows a SO to dictate how, when, where, and with whom they ride. If cycling is your passion, then embrace it and feel empowered to keep riding -- with whatever gender keeps you riding, as long as you feel good about it and it meets your needs ... feel the power!!!