Quote Originally Posted by Melalvai View Post
Almost immediately after the course I became a total biking nut! I loved the freedom I felt, how I own the road, the cars can't scare me, I know what I'm doing is right and I feel very safe, etc. (I recommend that course enthusiastically!!)

My husband didn't like that at all. I started going on long rides on the roads, not just the trails, and I posted on the list asking if anyone had any routes to recommend because I kept getting lost? Riding Buddy suggested I ride with him & his wife, and since then I've done several rides with him, his wife, and the two together. I ride with them about once a week. His wife is not up to distances over 40 miles, so the long rides are just him & me, or we all start out together and she might turn back early.
Mel,

are you SURE it's Riding Buddy that your husband is upset about?

Is your husband sure it's Riding Buddy that he's upset about?

Here's something entirely different to think about:

You've started riding on ROADS instead of trails. Roads are filled with CARS, and CARS are big, go real fast, and let's face it, if there's any sort of confrontation between a car and a bicycle, the car will win.

Is it possible that "I don't like you riding with Riding Buddy" is a way to avoid admitting "I'm scared crapless that something could happen to you while you're out there on the roads" ???

MINE says commuting to work is too far for me -- it's about half the distance of HIS commute and we ride that distance just to get a cup of coffee, and we've ridden down to where I work to meet friends for rides, so he KNOWS I can do it. I'm also not supposed to ride north of the freeway -- it's too dangerous for ME (though he does it every day) Oh, and then there's those delightful 30+ mph downhill runs: don't DO that! Then there was that other dandy: don't even THINK about moving your hands when you're going that fast! I think "that fast" was about 15mph that day.

You'd think MY DH could quit riding through the construction zone where "car back" is not just "car back" but "pissy guy in car back" cuz there's no WAY he can go around without taking out a whole bunch of orange barrels! (He took me through there yesterday, and the moment these guys could get around, they'd gun their engines and burn rubber to get around us!)

Karen in Boise