I tried several saddles before settling on the Terry Fly (mens). I think the damsel fly might be worth looking into but since the Fly is working, I won't change. Lilke shubie, I have beefy thighs and a narrow nose is critical to avoid chafing.

Sometimes you know immediately, the moment you sit on it. Other times you need several rides. Just be open to what your body is telling you and the huge variety of saddles out there. Don't look at just Women's either. I tried several WSD saddles and ended up with a mens design so who knows, just keep looking til you find THE one. Trust me, when you find it, you'll know.