Dear So and So

[Trek420]

Q: He's harassing you from 800 miles away by air yet he shows up at your work? I'd call the police.

Like I tell people who call to get their phone number changed "my safety concern is if they can't harass you remotely by phone, e-mail, will they show up at your door?"

He's shown up at the door.

Let the professionals take good care of him. or kit and x, kit knows where to hide the body

[mimitabby]

chick
not to be a pest, but can you see how serious these responses are to your situation? we're not kidding here.

[chickwhorips]

He happen to be flying through when he came into work. You have to fly through ANC to get to CDB.

[chickwhorips]

I know its serious, but he seems to be more talk (and annoyance) than action.

[Velobambina]

Please let me realize where all this loss and disappointment is leading me. Give me the courage, patience, and strength to surrender to fate and not react to the unkind, judgmental, vindictive people who surround me at work. Help me to do the right thing. Help me to keep my dignity in an undignified, unprofessional work environment.

[Xrayted]

CWR - do you work at the airport? NO! So, yes he is going out of his way to harrass and stalk you. I say let the local police know that he is doing this to you and get it on the record. When he shows up again, call them out and let them tell him to stay away. It is obvious by what he did when you were together that he doesn't respect you or what you had. He is not going to stop just on your say-so. You need someone in legal authority to put it straight for him. (remember your own advice to your little sis not so long ago?)

Take care and lots of love...

Mick.

[madscot13]

okay stalking in the state with the lowest person per square mile of the US? That is cr*p. And he is a loser. And you are awesome. Cr*p, losers, and awesome do not mix. Please remember that Chick who rips! Please don't sink to his awful level because you are better than that, keep the upper hand.

[Kitsune06]

Dear so and so...
I don't write *every day*... lord knows, I don't even write *every week* but just because you don't hear from me all the time doesn't mean I don't love you...
...and it doesn't give you license to say harsh things, either. You could always discipline me as a child with a look... so why did you always have to say such biting things? Did it make you feel better, like you have something accomplished, or said your piece? Is that it?
Thank God for selective memory. I'd completely forgotten a lot of what you'd said while I was a kid... until I found little bits of a journal I'd kept a long time ago. I repeated these horrible things as if they were empty, idle conversation. Truly hurtful things had become the norm. And I go on to wonder why I've gone through emotionally abusive relationships in my past and continually fear I will repeat my forbears' mistakes, fear hearing their words come out of my mouth without thought? You'd think that I'd know better, given my vehement dislike for such abrasiveness, but no... without thinking, I blurt these things and manage to hurt my own feelings and someone else's.
I don't ask you to be a nice person... just be accepting and warm, or leave me alone. You've done nothing significant for me since I was a cute little minor in your house. I moved away and you rewarded my efforts to contact you with hurtful words, intimidation and cruelty. I went through difficult times in my life and you comforted me with the silent treatment, telling me how wrong my decision making was, my happiness be damned.
And you wonder why I don't have this burning desire to go home?
My only real solace is the fact that you've finally ceased to ask about grandchildren. All it took was for me to tell you that my GF and I will keep trying. A little shock treatment never hurt anyone, especially when it was merely a reciprocation.
Keep your bucolic fantasies to yourself. My kind of life isn't welcome there, and I will not sacrifice love, nor the freedom to hold my lover's hand and kiss her passionately in the street for what semblance of 'home' you will attempt to give me...

Sorry. Mutual rejection hurts.

[Starfish]

Please remember that Chick who rips!

Aaaaaahhhhhh. Thank you!

I have always seen this as Chick Whorips. I've have been wondering what a "whorip" was!

Sometimes I do wonder what is the matter with me.