Dermoid Cyst

[makbike]

Thanks Teigyr. I'll survive but at the moment I'm just a bit blue. I agree his timing well sucked. My mom had just left for home before he showed up on my doorstep. In fact she called while he was here I had to ask her to call back in a bit. She did call back twice and by the second call she was mad as hell. I would not want for the two of them to meet in a dark alley for I think she could take him.

I have to go by his place tomorrow to pick up my stuff and just maybe my mind will be able to function and I can ask some questions that may help give me some closure. It has been a long time since I've gone through something like this and it reminds me why I took myself out of the playing field for so many years.

[teigyr]

Oh I know I could take him. Never mess with a 5'11" redhead with many pairs of pointed toe boots. Send him out this way. Please?

Dunno, I'm very much a believer of defining people by their actions. This one action defines him so many ways. Even if this was justified for whatever reason (and I can't think of any), it was handled in the rudest of ways. A good person would have supported you during this and been there helping. A good person, even if it wasn't the right person, would want what was best for you as a friend.

I know it's hard but remember you will end up happy. These things have a way of sorting themselves out and people like that (him) perpetuate their own really bad karma. He will be himself....which is not a good thing. Never ceases to amaze me.

Tomorrow just keep reminding yourself that HE is the one losing out, not you. You can and will be around people who don't do what he did either in a relationship or in friendship.

rant over

[teigyr]

The best advice I can give (not that you're looking for it but it's good) is to treat yourself well. When I got divorced, a friend told me to get a massage or get a manicure or pamper myself in some way. While it was not much of a consolation at the time and while it didn't make me immediately happy, I started feeling better about myself and life. So do what makes you happy and be selfish about it

[makbike]

Teigyr it is a new day now so hopefully today will go just a little better than yesterday.

I'll be attending the ride captain course that ex-BF will help teach but i refuse to allow him to dictate, even from afar, what i do. i've made arrangements to meet him afterwards so that i can collect my belongs at his place. it will be a hard day i'm sure but i'll get through it

thanks for the suggestions and words of encouragement - i need all the help i can get at the moment.

[LBTC]

Marcie!

I'm glad your surgery went well, and your recovery is going well, too.

The BF thing sucks, though, and I hope you're following teigyr's advice. She's right. You're fabulous, he's the one losing out and you need to pamper yourself and give you everything you need to remind you that you're wonderful!

Orange and red confidence enhancing butterflies, along with white and blue calm and relaxing butterflies headed your way!

Hugs,
~T~

[makbike]

Thanks guys. I wish i felt good about myself at the moment. As my mom said this afternoon time heals all wounds and though I feel this one is pretty deep I know it could be a lot worse. I simply do not want to end bitter over this - the handwritting was on the wall I simply kept telling myself we would work things out and turn it around for the better. How wrong I was. The hard part will be the bike club functions since we attended those together. I will not stop riding with the club because he walked away from me. I wish I could ride tomorrow for I'd kick his a** on the afternoon ride

I really need to ride to work some of this off but won't see my doctor until Wednesday afternoon. Of course, I'll share with her the fact the I had to tote a 40 lb bag of dog food in my house (I was gentle). She will probably have a thing or two to say I'm sure.

I'll be fine I'm sure.

[crazycanuck]

Grrrrr...Sorry to hear about the BF marcie

Shall we send kit's boot his way? If not, i can send some cold wind via subliminal messages It may take some logistical planning but i'm sure it can be arranged.

Good to hear you're healing well

C