Dermoid Cyst

[makbike]

teigyr - I did start driving Friday and continue to walk three times a day. I live on a big circle (about .4 miles around) and complete 4 laps today (morning, noon and evening for a grand total of 12 laps). I actually feel pretty darn good. I see my doctor on Wednesday and am hoping that maybe she will reduce my recovery period.

Now, mentally it is a very different story - BF showed at my door this afternoon and announced he is ending our 3 year relationship. Talk about a kick in the gut. Now that I am physcially healing it appears I also have some mental healing to do as well.

Life goes on and I can only trust it will get better on all fronts soon.

[teigyr]

oh no, I can't believe it. Decorum prevents me from saying what I want to but I think you deserve far better.

You're strong, things will get better. I am so sorry though, he picked a fine time to show his true colors.

I'm glad you seem to be doing ok, at least physically. I keep having these visions of junior getting bigger and kicking ex-bf's backside...

You are/were too good for him. Grrrrrr....things'll turn around, I know it.

[makbike]

Thanks Teigyr. I'll survive but at the moment I'm just a bit blue. I agree his timing well sucked. My mom had just left for home before he showed up on my doorstep. In fact she called while he was here I had to ask her to call back in a bit. She did call back twice and by the second call she was mad as hell. I would not want for the two of them to meet in a dark alley for I think she could take him.

I have to go by his place tomorrow to pick up my stuff and just maybe my mind will be able to function and I can ask some questions that may help give me some closure. It has been a long time since I've gone through something like this and it reminds me why I took myself out of the playing field for so many years.

[teigyr]

Oh I know I could take him. Never mess with a 5'11" redhead with many pairs of pointed toe boots. Send him out this way. Please?

Dunno, I'm very much a believer of defining people by their actions. This one action defines him so many ways. Even if this was justified for whatever reason (and I can't think of any), it was handled in the rudest of ways. A good person would have supported you during this and been there helping. A good person, even if it wasn't the right person, would want what was best for you as a friend.

I know it's hard but remember you will end up happy. These things have a way of sorting themselves out and people like that (him) perpetuate their own really bad karma. He will be himself....which is not a good thing. Never ceases to amaze me.

Tomorrow just keep reminding yourself that HE is the one losing out, not you. You can and will be around people who don't do what he did either in a relationship or in friendship.

rant over

[teigyr]

The best advice I can give (not that you're looking for it but it's good) is to treat yourself well. When I got divorced, a friend told me to get a massage or get a manicure or pamper myself in some way. While it was not much of a consolation at the time and while it didn't make me immediately happy, I started feeling better about myself and life. So do what makes you happy and be selfish about it

[makbike]

Teigyr it is a new day now so hopefully today will go just a little better than yesterday.

I'll be attending the ride captain course that ex-BF will help teach but i refuse to allow him to dictate, even from afar, what i do. i've made arrangements to meet him afterwards so that i can collect my belongs at his place. it will be a hard day i'm sure but i'll get through it

thanks for the suggestions and words of encouragement - i need all the help i can get at the moment.

[LBTC]

Marcie!

I'm glad your surgery went well, and your recovery is going well, too.

The BF thing sucks, though, and I hope you're following teigyr's advice. She's right. You're fabulous, he's the one losing out and you need to pamper yourself and give you everything you need to remind you that you're wonderful!

Orange and red confidence enhancing butterflies, along with white and blue calm and relaxing butterflies headed your way!

Hugs,
~T~