I'm so happy for you and your family.

As for your decision to make sure your son gets the kidney, and being willing to roll the dice for your own future --

I have a friend who has a genetic kidney problem that all four of her children inherited. I don't know if it's Alports or not, though. But when she needed a kidney donor there was nobody available in her family because it was so widespread (though somehow nobody had ever known this until her situation came up).

She went on the donor list expecting to be there a long time waiting her turn, when after only one session of dialysis, she got a phone call that there was a kidney available for her. It seems that (in the US, anyway) if the next available kidney is a really really good match for somebody on the waiting list, they jump ahead of everybody else. That was about 15 years ago and she's still doing great.

We never know what is waiting for us around the next corner, so I don't blame you for wanting Ian to have that kidney.

Keep us posted.