My DH and I had kind of a different experience with tandems than a lot of others. We have had three tandems over the course of our cycling career. The first, a 26" wheeled Santana Vision (steel), was our "starter tandem". We had it for three years and had a LOT of fun on it, and I even did my first-ever century on it. I was a very weak cyclist at the time, and DH was a very strong one, so it was literally the only way we could ride together. It was normally a joy to ride, and I could get by with my weaker skills since DH could do more of the work. He did find it to be more tiring to ride, though, both because he was doing more of the work than on his single, and because it required a lot of upper-body strength to pilot. The bike was a little on the large size for both of us (a "medium" frame), so we finally traded it in on....
...A 10' Ryan Duplex Recumbent with underseat steering. A blast to ride, but heavy b/c it was so long. It was steel and had S&S couplers. It was a very comfy bike, and we enjoyed it greatly but finally traded it in because we couldn't do u-turns in it, it was SLOW as mud uphill, and we wanted to ride with a bike club. We could FLY downhill but got left behind on every climb, so it wasn't a good "social" bike, and no way to carry much luggage on it either.
A few years ago, when we were both riding single upright bikes again (after a brief stint with single recumbents, which had most of the same issues as the Ryan), we were having the same problems as Triskeliongirl and her DH. I was a fairly decent rider by this point, but my DH was an excellent, faster rider. So riding together was fairly frustrating, and I too sometimes ended up in tears on a ride since I was having to work so hard to keep up at a pace that was "easy" for him. So, we bought a top of the line (at that time), very light, Santana Team AL tandem. We really thought that this bike would be the answer to our riding-together issues.
It was a flop.
By then, I was so used to riding my single and making all the decisions about gears, cadence, slowing down, speeding up, when to stop, etc., that I couldn't handle not being able to see the road in front of me - even though I trusted my DH's piloting abilities completely. It just drove me batty not to be able to see the terrain coming up. And DH was so used to riding his single bike that he'd sometimes forget to call out climbs, descents, and sometimes even turns and slowing. He tried, but he had forgotten how to be a good captain, and I was no longer a good stoker at all (control freak me). DH also really noticed having to bear my weight in his shoulders this time around, maybe because he was older than before. He said his neck and shoulders always bothered him after a tandem ride, so he didn't have nearly as much fun as on his single.
All that said, we did have a few rides when everything was clicking, and we could FLY on that thing -- we even beat some fast men in the club uphill on one memorable ride. Our average speed on it was typically faster than even my DH could do alone, since we had two engines on a light bike (under 30 lbs). But most of the time, we just weren't having that much fun.
The final straw was a slow-speed fall we took in a very, very rare moment when DH misjudged a crack in the road, and all I could do was fall with him in slow-mo. It was a minor incident and our only crash on the bike, but it was kind of the straw that broke the camel's back. When we got home that night, we decided to sell the tandem, and we never regretted doing so. We just weren't cut out to be tandem riders - at least any more. I am way too much of a control freak now!
As for touring with one, I know that some couples enjoy it, but thinking of the places we stayed on our loaded NY tour in 2004, some of the hotel/inn rooms would have been more of a challenge to get a tandem into (plus the elevator and stairs we had to go up with our bikes). Another alternative is for you to ride your go-fast bike and have your DH ride a touring bike and carry all the gear. You'd certainly keep up with him then!
Not to be a wet blanket, but a tandem is a big expense, so I just wanted to give the other side of the story. But there is no way to know if you'll like it or not without trying it. Even without your custom crankset, it's possible that you could get some feel for that taking even a short ride.
Emily
Emily
2011 Jamis Dakar XC "Toto" - Selle Italia Ldy Gel Flow
2007 Trek Pilot 5.0 WSD "Gloria" - Selle Italia Diva Gel Flow
2004 Bike Friday Petite Pocket Crusoe - Selle Italia Diva Gel Flow