Darcy, thank you so much. Your words really helped me.
As far as my previous posts, I forgot and I had posted earlier that I was having computer issues. It was reading my speed quite a bit faster then it was suppose to as the mileage. I would get home and tell DH all happy and he was like that's not possible. After taking the bike several times to the LBS they made sure the computer was working, UNTIL, I put my heart monitor on. Sure enough, I was getting interefence and the information was NOT correct, obviously.
So, I no longer wear that monitor and am using DH's Polar since it doesn't interfere with the computer. So, today I got a TRUE reading and I guess it was a "blow" to the ego. However, after reading your post, I feel ALOT better. I know that my legs feel like jello and I'm wasted, but it's a GOOD feeling. DH rode today to and we compared notes, and of course, he's faster but after doing the math my computer is right.
I've decided I really don't care anymore, I'm going out there for me, to test my body and I can tell when I'm working hard and when I can do more or need to do less.
Thank you again for your words, they were very helpful and kind.
Jenn