O/T Career advice needed!

[BikeMomma]

Bliss on a Bike. Now that's poetic!

MM, I have no more advice to add than what has already been said by all these wise and wonderful ladies, except to stress that whatever decision you make, make it for YOU, not anybody else.

Part of the reason I got out of cycling years ago was to spend time with my then BF, now hubby, which usually entailed going with him to do the things that HE liked to do or just hanging out with him just to be with him (he doesn't ride). I forgot who I was and what made me tick in there somewhere while falling in love with him and forgot to pay attention to myself too.

Ten years of marriage (happy, mind you) and three great, crazy children later, I'm putting my foot down HARD and fighting for my "me" time. I completely regret totally giving up who I was to be the model wife, mom, and career woman (still have that too). I wish now that I had not dropped the things I loved doing because I felt I should, in order to build a life with my husband and have a career job with better money.

The point of my gibberish may be: you're getting married soon (I remember from previous posts by you in other threads -- I'm the half-Brit who's English side lives close to you in Basingstoke - hello again!), you have no kids yet, and you're debating the career thing that will take time and you away from the things you enjoy doing, the things that define you. I see a parallel with myself as described above. With my hindsight now clear, if this were my choice to make again, I would definitely choose the job that will allow you to be and stay who you are (a cyclist, dog owner , etc.!), and not you molded into someone you won't recognize in 15 years.

Yet another point of view, huh? You have loads to think about now. I wish you the best, MM!
- Kim