After being tortured by truly crap saddles I finally found the Terry women's saddles. The one I have been riding for the past 2 years is the Butterfly Ti and I love it. They make men's saddles too. I'm thinking that because of the (*ahem*) physical differences between men and women it will be difficult to find a saddle that will work for you both. But they don't have flowers all over them, if that's what he's worried about . Seriously, check out the Butterfly Ti by Terry. They have a hole where the important bits go, it isn't squishy in the least, and this particular saddle has a textured surface so that you aren't slipping and sliding all over. I've been riding Terry saddles for close to 10 years now and I simply won't use anyone else's.