A lesson learned!

[Brandi]

It is so funny that you say that. Both of you cause that is not the first time someone made that comment. I don't know I think he might be beyond learning a lesson. It is funny too, he is handsom, has a good job, has money. Lives by the beach! But he has the worst time keeping girlfriends. He was married once too, she left him for another women. Is that not a blow to a man's ego? At least some men's ego's. I had that happen to another friend and he is all " wheather man or women it is all the same, she left, period".
Whenever they have problems with him it is always the same, he has to talk and talk and talk till your ears bleed!
We were in he's neck of the woods last week and I mentioned to my dh that there will come a time I am going to run into him. Then what? I did email him telling him I had no intentions of hurting he's feelings. That it was an accident. My husband said it would not matter with him nothing I say will be good enough to take away what I said. He's right too.

[stella]

Brandi,

correct me if I'm wrong--but is it fair to say that this man has a sense of entitlement? quite honestly--don't apologize for telling sharing with a friend your impressions. and, should you run into him and he wants to talk you ear off: simply say: "I apologize that I sent it to you accidently. I do not apologize for what I said--because I believe it to be true." then...walk away.

just my 2 cents.

[lizbids]

Sounds like BIL thrives on attention, so as long as you don't give it to him, you're probably okay. You don't owe him anything other than the apology you sent. Naturally we want to be respectful and not cause trouble, but sometimes it happens, and you have to deal with it. Let this be a lesson when it comes to emailing feelings!

This man sounds like he has a narcissistic personality disorder. Does he have any good qualities? Sometimes we call adults "big babies," when in fact they are either mentally ill or suffering from a personality disorder. If that's the case, there's not much you can do if he refuses treatment. Sounds like he has a hard time recognizing his own weaknesses. I say keep your distance and refuse to engage in a verbal volley should you cross paths with him again.

[stella]

This man sounds like he has a narcissistic personality disorder. Does he have any good qualities? Sometimes we call adults "big babies," when in fact they are either mentally ill or suffering from a personality disorder. If that's the case, there's not much you can do if he refuses treatment. Sounds like he has a hard time recognizing his own weaknesses. I say keep your distance and refuse to engage in a verbal volley should you cross paths with him again.

my thoughts exactly! my clinical gut thought "Axis II, npd."

Brandi--sounds like you've got a good, balanced attitude about this.

[Brandi]

my thoughts exactly! my clinical gut thought "Axis II, npd."

Brandi--sounds like you've got a good, balanced attitude about this.

Thank you! I just know there is a great man in there. But from what i have seen and how other member's of he's family are I don't think he is going to change.
We hired him once a long time ago to sculpt with us on a sand sculpture project. He called 3 days before it and backed out. He called CRYING. It was so strange. We lost a airline ticket because of him and short a person on our project too. But we forgave him. But we knew hw was not right after that.

[mimitabby]

he kept her on the phone for 5 hours?!?! there's no one on earth that could keep me on the phone for 5 hours..!!!!!!!

what a piece of work this guy must be.


I have gotten myself into trouble twice now for forwarding emails to the wrong people. We all do it, I guess.

[Python]

Sounds to me like he's very insecure and lacks confidence in himself.

[Brandi]

Brandi,

correct me if I'm wrong--but is it fair to say that this man has a sense of entitlement? quite honestly--don't apologize for telling sharing with a friend your impressions. and, should you run into him and he wants to talk you ear off: simply say: "I apologize that I sent it to you accidently. I do not apologize for what I said--because I believe it to be true." then...walk away.

just my 2 cents.

I agree fully. I am not sorry for what I said just that he saw it.