Hi Regina,

I say to support him. Talk to him about your concerns, of course. I think most people know when other people are acting out of line and hopefully he saw that in the hammerheads. I think he is right about getting a bike he can race on that is more "expendable" than the Seven. I know that any bike is an expense but Lemonds are fairly reasonable I think. Maybe, also, talk to some people who race.

I can only say things from my side because I am the one in the relationship who gets gung-ho to do things. While some of my interests cost more than others, the support of my spouse means SO much. When I started riding more, he got a bike. When I wanted to do a tri, he said it wasn't for him (good thing, this one is women only anyway!) but he would be there to support me. I think had he given me grief, I would have felt resentment and anger.

Who knows. He might race and enjoy it, he might race and think "ok, this was no better than before". Regardless, he is fulfilling something he wants to try to do. You can do the journey with him and if the worst thing that happens is you have an extra bike, so be it.

Just me though. I'm sure someone who races might have more insight as to the time commitment and how that would affect home life.

Has he said why he wants to race? Anyway...good luck. I'm sure you two can talk it over and come to a really fantastic middle ground.

Jane