only 20 bucks but

[stacie]

Former ride partner calls up and ask if husband can get a product through his company for him. We can at 1/2 price. Husband orders as asked and pays for it. Make arrangements for friend to pick it up. He knows total cost is $60. He shows up and reaches in pocket to find $20. He asks his girlfriend if she has any money and she hands over $20. He says he'll drop the other $20 off. He only lives a mile away. We don't hang out with this person anymore but hear from him a couple of times per week. He usually sends an email about cycling news. Well, at least until he picked up his item. We haven't heard a word since and it's been about 6 weeks. I know it's only $20 bucks but I feel taken advantage of. It's not a matter of not having the money either.

[spokewench]

Maybe they just forgot. I'm pretty good about most things but occasionally i've been known to forget some things.

Just call them up, gently remind them, and then you probably can quit worrying about it

[SadieKate]

If he emails you regularly, just send an email back containing a LOT of humor along the lines of "where's my 20 bucks? The children are starving and we're having to rummage in garbage cans." He probably just forgot. Give him the benefit of the doubt once.

[stacie]

He quit emailing when he picked up his stuff. I sent an email. If I thought it were an oversight I'd overlook the 20 bucks. If we were close I would as I periodically pick stuff up for friends. They do the same for me. History and personality make me draw the conclusion I did. I hate asking people for money.

[Veronica]

That reminds me... how much do I owe you SK?

V.

[SadieKate]

It depends on whose math we're using. What do you think of $37 this time?

[Veronica]

Yeah... whatever.

V.

[mimitabby]

A good thing to do might be to ask him in person around other people.

"Did you forget about the blabla that i got for you? you still owe me $$$. I figured you just forgot, thanks"

[pooks]

Email and ask, "How is that blah-blah working out for you?"

Or maybe not. He might decide to tell you it isn't at all and ask for his $60 back, ahem.

[stacie]

I used a little advice from each of you. I sent an email and said we were discussing that we hadn't seen him since he picked his stuff up. that's unusual and we wanted to check up on him. BTW, how's that stuff working out for you. He responded "Are you collecting your husband's debts now". I just responded that we have been starving since loaning the money, but drop it by anytime. Actually I wanted to collect and spend it and never tell my husband. No response. I have dropped the hint. My husband would be mortified if he knew.

[mimitabby]

are you collecting your husband's debts now?? That guy has A LOT OF NERVE!

[spokewench]

Nobody should be mortified about collecting on a debt. The person who should be mortified is the one who forgot to pay or did not pay.

[Geonz]

He's a user.

[Mr. Bloom]

Yo!! You giva' me dat address....and there ain't no way they gonna forget!

Seriously, a friendly reminder "hey, did I forget to get that 20 bucks from you?"

[teigyr]

RUDE!!! So he knew all along and was intentionally not paying you?! I kind of thought he did being that you had stopped receiving the e-mails but still.

I guess even though you might be out the money, it's good that you know his character and know not to do him favors any more. Who knows, maybe he borrows from his girlfriend all the time and maybe she's tired of it too!