Your issues remind me of mine! I am relatively new to cycling and have a huge appetite, plus I love to cook. I am a bit of a foodie!

I made myself some little guidelines that have worked well:
1. When I get home from a ride I immediatedly drink one of those liquid yougurt things (the small ones).
2. I also buy those little carrots and eat them while making dinner, which takes the edge off the appetite.
3. I have a good lunch, like a BLT, or an egg salad (with dill and capers) sandwich on interesting bread, or sushi. Anything good with lots of protien and some carbs.

The idea is to not let yourself get too hungry, but to eat stuff you like. I did loose about 10 lbs. (painlessly!) on this over 3 months, since January! Of course, I increased my biking and spinning too.

Everyone has told me I should drink Gatoraide on long rides, but I worry about all those calories and sugar - do you have any info or ideas on that?