BF and I have an agreement, we each ride our own rides when we ride with the club. He is much faster than I am so I typically only see the back of his jersey before he becomes a dot ahead until finally he is nowhere to be seen. He likes to go fast and I do not want nor need to be an anchor and slow him down. That saide, when we ride together he stays with me and rides at my pace. Would I love to ride with him more, certainly, but I also want him to have fun and enjoy his time on his bike so I ride my ride and he rides his and we meet up at the end to enjoy some time together. If I try to keep up with him I simply become frustrated and it spoils my ride. Everyone has to find their comfort zone and their time on their bikes.