My DH and I are pretty much opposite of what I've read here. I am the faster rider. He is the slower when he even deigns to ride. I've been riding for a long time now. He only got into riding because I do. He rides only when he is training for something specific, and even then, it is at a leisurely (for me) pace. I made it clear from the start that I would rarely ride with him, at his speed. I'm sorry, but it is too difficult for both of us. I am miserable going that slow. He is breathless and still can't keep up with me. So what is the point? Neither of us will enjoy the ride. On the rare occasions we are on the same ride, we set meeting points or see each other at the finish. It works, tho' it may not work for everyone. I've heard so many suggestions about trying a tandem but I'd have to captain and I don't feel capable of handling his weight and mine. We've learned to make this work. I honestly think sometimes, for two different riders, it is the only solution. Hope you figure out what works best for you.

Annie