more sad news from bcipam...

[SalsaMTB]

bcipam,

I'm so sorry to hear what you're going through right now. My thoughts are with you and your family.

I've been through a similar situation. Please remember he couldn't escape the demons inside and he is now free. I hope your nephew can eventually let the hate go and learn to accept that there is no one to blame for this sad loss.

[bouncybouncy]

Just wanted to send some virtual support...wishing you and your family strength in this difficult time!

...and yes, try to see something beautiful everyday, just a little something to lift a bit of spirit!

[mtbdarby]

This touches home with me. Please comfort your sister and make sure she knows that she did the right thing in getting out and getting the one child out of that situation. I was married to an alcoholic and firmly believe that I saved my own life the day I walked out. I tried to save both of us, but when that didn't work, I had to save myself. The son will come to realize this in time.

L-

I second Pedal Wench. Pam, I know you don't believe this right now, but no one can force an alcoholic to get help. They have to want to do it on their own. I had the courts force my ex into treatment. He was a nice guy to me for about a month and went back to his old habits. One thing I would highly recommend for everyone is Al-Anon and Ala-Teen. It's free and there are chapters and meetings literally everywhere. Get the family to a meeting. Just sit there and listen at the first meeting and go with your instinct after that. It was by far the best gift I gave myself to heal.

((hugs and prayers)). This too shall pass even though the burden is heavy. Trust in the Lord Pam and he'll see you through it.

God Bless,

[IFjane]

Pam you and your family are in my thoughts. The TE family will be here sending you good thoughts and strength to deal with this. Hang in there and don't forget to get help not only for your family but for yourself, too.

[7rider]

I'm sorry to hear about this, Pam.
This is an awful lot for everyone to go through and I wish you all strength and healing.

[doc]

Wishing you strength and wisdom to help your sister and her family.

[Tuckervill]

>>All of you with faith, please pray for me and my family and especially my nephew who now has so much hate and hurt inside. I know time is a healer but boy, there's alot of healing to do.<<

It's only natural for family members to be angry when their loved one commits suicide. I hope your nephew is able to focus the anger where it belongs, on his father, instead of pushing away his mother. They are going to need each other. She couldn't have done anything to stop him from committing suicide, and he would have done it anyway.

I'm sorry for your family's loss, Pam.

Karen

[Bikingmomof3]

Pam,
I am so very sorry. You and your family are in my prayers.

[Thistle]

thinking of you and hoping you all get the support you need.

it's hard... it's a year ago today my father-in-law suicided. It's true what bikerchic68 said "When someone decides, truly decides that they're done, and they're going to commit suicide, there is NOTHING anyone can do to stop them"... i keep reminding DH, brother-in-law and gorgeous sister-in-law of this.

Keep reminding your sister and her children. They will need to hear it.

again, i am so sorry to hear this


{{{bcipam}}}

[chickwhorips]

i am so sorry to hear of this happening to you.

sending you extra strength to get through this hard time.

[Grog]

Good luck Pam. You're a very strong woman... I hope your sister and her kids have half your strength.

Big hug.

[Raindrop]

(((((((BCIPam))))))))

I just lost my brother to suicide 2 1/2 months ago and can empathize with what you are going through. I have had so much support from the women on this site and have looked into many of the websites that some were kind enough to post about.

Although it is still very fresh and raw for me, if I can do anything at all, or if you'd like to get in touch with me...please do. It isn't an easy process.

Take care of yourself.

[logdiva32]

Lord, there is a family whom you know. A family separated by pain. A child of yours has removed himself from this world without your permission, Lord. We pray for this family and all of there friends, that they not be overwhelmed with guilt and pain. Allow this family to griev and heal, Father. Do not let guilt and blame burn such a whole inside these children that they cannot see who loves them, Lord. Lord you know the needs of this family, I ask that you care for this family in there time of need. In Jesus name, Amen

[mary9761]

I'm so sorry for your pain.

[RoadRaven]

Oh BC
My thoughts remain with you - I include you every time I light a candle and send out healing, love and protection for those I know who may use it.
Hugs