I try to be careful here. Many of my friends I met at the Y or eventually got them to join. However, I've lost friends who were not successful. Recently, some really good friends started asking my husband and me about working out. I even got them a free membership for a while in hopes that they would enjoy it. They never went and we get far fewer invites to their house. When we do visit, they usually start giving us excuses why they aren't doing all the things they dream about. I was recently having a glass of wine at a bar with my husband when a friend I haven't seen in a while caught my eye. He came over to say hello and immediatly started explaining the weight he'd put on. I knew I wouldn't be seeing him again. My husband and I remind each other not to talk fitness when we head to non-fitness type people's parties. We've gone as far as to change out of run tshirts when walking over to get our son's at a neighbor's house. When a friend starts talking fitness to us who doesn't already exercise, my husband I always try to change the subject.